Overflowing

Isn't it something, what flows from our bodies, our hearts, our minds? Sometimes I don't even realize how irritable I'm feeling until it comes out at our old dog, who in her senility, forgets that she isn't allowed in the kitchen. I regularly trip over her as I wash the…

The gifts of 'the end of the day'

A friend once gave me an 'end of the day' clay bead - a bead made of the remnants of all the beads that had been created that day. She gave it to me when I was pregnant with my son, my last child, and was facing new motherhood for…

Good Bones

"It is not beauty that endures, it is love that makes us see beauty." - Leo Tolstoy In 2010, I sold my beautiful 1908 Craftsman home in a small railroad town in Montana – a home with 'good bones,' a yard full of mud and dog poop, urine stained hardwood…

Turning off the lights in my son's room

When one of my children began to potty train, they were terribly frightened of the noise and size of public toilets. At the time, we lived in a small Montana town, and regularly drove over the mountain pass to the big city of Bozeman (population: 30,000) to do a…

On Being Thwarted

My second daughter was born a bit early at 35 weeks. In her premature arrival, she needed more physical closeness for the first two years of her life. Demanded is a better word: this child was so utterly insistent that she be held, and held by me, that I was…

Area of refuge

One June summer day, after spending time on the water with our children and my father in law, visiting from his home in Montana, my husband complained of a headache. His headache grew as we got off the boat, so he handed me the keys and asked me to drive…

Stopping for peaches on a Sunday afternoon

This past Sunday was one of those days that held the startling juxtaposition of the beauty and sorrow of life. As Francis Weller writes, "Our task as adults is to be stretched wide by grief and gratitude." We hold one in each hand. My morning began playing with a baby,…

The 'Ugly Cry'

Recently I shared a Saturday afternoon with Eugena Maguire [https://www.parentinghumanbeings.com/about], a delightful social worker and parent coach, as we recorded a conversation for her "Unpacking Depression" podcast. [https://www.parentinghumanbeings.com/podcast] Our conversation stretched over the course of the afternoon - one of those delicious…